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Why You Might Have the Wrong Love Languages
Are some love languages better indicators of real love than others?
Anybody who has spent a significant amount of time on a dating app has probably heard of “the 5 love languages.” In case you’re one of those who says their love language is “pizza” or “Spanish,” let’s first discuss what the 5 love languages actually are.
The 5 love languages were originally discussed by an author and radio talk show host by the name of Gary Chapman. They represent the various ways people communicate their love for one another. They are: (1) words of affirmation, (2) quality time, (3) acts of service, (4) physical touch, and (5) receiving gifts. People tend to put two or three of these on their dating site profile or even tell them to their dates directly. The goal is to let any potential relationship partners know how you like to have love communicated to you. Some people may use the love languages to show how they intend to demonstrate their love to others, but since it makes more sense that we love people as they want to be loved, we’ll assume they’re more often used to describe how the person saying it wants to be treated themselves.
The effortless languages
We choose our love languages based on what makes us feel loved. They let us readily tell…
