Well, I try to be an actual good lover, but some women start orgasming basically as soon as it goes in, so I know I'm playing the game on easy. Also, certain techniques require the size.

I am an empath by nature, and the main thing that does it for me in bed is watching my partner get theirs, so I have spent a lot of time and effort trying to learn how to please. But in my personal experience, that mostly works on the margins. Usually if I have great sexual chemistry with someone, we'll go crazy in the bedroom--otherwise, there's not much to be done.