That's a great point, and you really honed in on my thinking at the time, which was predictive.

I don't think, "Oh, I'm so mad about this, and I'll never get over it." Emotionally, I was over it a few hours later and able to interact with her regularly. And when she eventually apologized, I immediately accepted that apology and never brought the issue up again.

It's setting a tone and a baseline in the relationship that it's okay to talk to me that way that's problematic. I know that if we can't communicate well, and can't handle conflict well, that the relationship will never bring me peace, so that's why I typically won't budge on such things.

In this specific case, I felt a little bit differently because it seemed like she was unwilling to apologize verbally/directly, but showed remorse in other ways. It's an odd idiosyncrasy that I've never really encountered before, so I didn't really know how to respond to it. It's that which I think I should've been more accepting of since ultimately I was generally happy with her.

So after she eventually apologized, we got to a good place, but she was already living far away by then. We'd text regularly throughout the day, but over time she grew frustrated with what she saw as a lack of progression in the relationship and ended things with me. We eventually recovered from that as well, but the distance has kind of just kept things complicated. Not sure what the future holds at this point.

All the best to you! Great to hear from you again