I'm glad I got a comment like this, since I was just going back and forth on this with one of the women I dated after she read this.

So what was described as a "system" to drive the point home that the process becomes soulless over time, actually consists of things that fall into two camps: 1) basic chivalry/dating strategies, and 2) ready answers for questions I've encountered a hundred times.

For the first camp, we have what's akin to holding the door open for a woman or complimenting her. I mean, bringing a jacket to offer to a woman is a classic gentlemanly move. And a hand on the back to break the touch barrier early on, is fundamentally no different than complimenting a woman on her appearance to make her feel at home.

For the second camp, the things that I listed as "I say these every time." Those are answers to the questions: "How many siblings do you have?," "What are your interests?," and "Do you speak any other languages?" They're all basic, get-to-know-you questions that everyone asks.

If you're going to try to sit here and tell me that if asked those same questions 50+ times you wouldn't eventually fall into giving the same answer, you're being disingenuous.

This is a comment from someone who either hasn't been there and has no experience with serial dating--serial dating, btw, not in itself bad in anyway. I was polite to all these women, entertained them for an evening, and if I wasn't interested, I was gentle and direct about it. I never sought sex or anything else from anyone I wasn't genuinely interested in.

Or this is a comment from someone who is being dishonest about their own experiences. Because if you have done any serial dating, you have absolutely fallen into patterns, and it's ridiculous to say otherwise.