I hadn’t thought about how a relationship that can bring you down emotionally, changing who you are temporarily, can be something else that we wouldn’t be allowed to move on from. It really serves to show the far-reaching sequelae of toxic relationships.

For me, growing up with social anxiety, I recognized how a lot of childhood friends still wanted to treat me like I was a nerdy kid who was perpetually unsure of myself, and it was almost like I had to engage in little quarrels, demonstrating my newfound assertiveness to break free from that.

I think the silver lining in all this is that new memories form. Whoever we want to be tomorrow, we just need to stick at it long enough and eventually we’ll be recognized as such. But, I absolutely agree with you, it’s a sad truth, but a lot of people instinctually enjoy having people who feel weak around them because it makes them feel strong.

I suppose the loss of some friends is just the cost of growth, and if that’s what it takes to be a better friend to ourselves, so be it.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on my article, Rebecca! I really appreciate it