I detailed a list of the 5 things I was looking for in the article. There's also a link in that same part which can you to a full article unpacking those 5 things.

A big one for me in particular is common interests. I spend my days deep diving into literature, music, and every manner of intellectual study.

A lot of people, arguably most people, find that tiring about me. People don't want to talk about the things I want to talk about, and they're not always "on" how I am.

Of my two last girlfriends, one was an Oxford graduate and top 40 under 40 lawyer; the other would compete in math competitions and ranked #2 in the entire country of India, before coming to the US on a full scholarship and going on to become a social entrepreneur.

I don't have specific standards around careers or something like that, but I want someone who can meet me where I am in terms of what I'm passionate about.

To your second question, women average likes from 97 different men a day on there. I would have to be the most attractive man alive to send "Hey! How's your day been?" and always get a response.