Dating apps are setting men and women up for failure — but for different reasons

Men are being devalued online, and it’s ultimately hurting everyone.

Martin Vidal
7 min readJun 17, 2024

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The image is a screenshot of a bunch of dating apps on a phone.
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Are you on a dating app? If so, you’re screwed — and not in the way you hoped. The apps are structurally flawed, and that’s bringing about a mass inequity which is messing things up for everyone. To understand it, we need to briefly refresh our knowledge on Economics 101.

Most of us are familiar with the basic tenets of supply and demand, and how that governs price/value. Put 100 people in the desert for two days and have them bid for a single water bottle, and that water bottle is now worth a million dollars. Flip it and have those same people bid for 10,000 water bottles, and the same bottle will go for less than a buck. The more people who want something and the less of that thing there is, the more its value rises. Well, apparently, it works the same way with people.

Dating App Data

A review of the popular dating app Bumble’s monthly active users found that 67.4% of them were male. For Tinder, it was 76% male. That’s a 2:1 and 3:1 ratio of men to women! Though not all of these individuals are heterosexual, most are, so supply and demand tells us that men are being devalued the moment they enter the online…

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